We want our family and friends to understand us. It is human nature to want to be heard and understood. So what do you do when you have someone that you care about or someone that you have to deal with on a daily bases that does not believe you are sick?
From my personal experience you don’t prove you are sick to ANYONE. It is a toxic situation that can actually cause you to be more symptomatic. At one point in my chronic illness Journey I try to prove to one person that I was sick (years ago) and all that it manifested was disappointment and heartache. When you have expectations of another it will always lead to disappointment if they are not compassionate. Also where ever you put your attention, it is going to grow so the best thing to do is avoid them or remove them from your life. You can then take all that energy you were expending trying to make someone think a way that they are not empathetic to (or possibly even not capable of) and put it towards your health and healing journey.
You can not make people think, act, or be a certain way. We have no control over another person we just have control over our reaction to them. When we come to an understanding of this it is very liberating because you can release expectations of another. They are just playing out their beliefs and perceptions. Some people have very little empathy. Lack of empathy happens when you have a block because of past experiences that hurt or traumatize you so what they are doing is protecting themselves. Empathy requires you do be venerable and it is too big of a risk for them. When I came to this understanding I was able to have compassion for the person that was uncompassionate to me! I released the anger and resentment towards them because I knew I had no control over their behavior and in a sense because of their past wounds they did not have control of their behavior ether. Let them not believe you and if they are mean or condescending about your condition you will have to set healthy boundaries for YOU and YOUR health.
Yes even family and close friends can be removed from your life if they are toxic in fact it is imperative when you are chronically ill. If you have someone that does not believe you and they are not being rude about it you can just avoid the subject and focus on other positive aspects of them that you do like. But if someone is mean, condescending, and flat out rude you need to respect and love yourself enough to say NO MORE! These types of situations can be making you more sick and have more symptoms so it is not worth it. You deserve to be treated with respect and compassion.
It all starts with self love and knowing what you deserve. We teach people how to treat us. <3