We are not just physical beings and Western medicine  has stepped away from treating our body’s as a whole. Just treating the body physically and not emotionally leads to a path of deteriorating health, chronic illness, and pain that is not managed properly. Studies show a direct relationship between unresolved anger/resentment and physical illness so it is not something that should be ignored because the body responds to chronic emotional issues physically hence making you more ill!

Why is it so hard for us to forgive and let go if we know that it is unhealthy for us?

Some of you are going to DISLIKE my answer but that is okay. I am not running a popularity contest here. I would rather make a few people upset with me then paint something that is black and white with bright colors to make everyone comfortable. The reason it is so hard to forgive and let go is simply our own pride and ego. Holding onto something  that happened in our past does not hurt the person that wronged us at all. They are out living their lives not thinking for a second of those thoughts that are torturing you and causing you emotional pain. Our pride and ego makes us believe that if we hold on to our anger, resentment, or any emotional pain that it serves some kind of justice for those who have hurt us. This is the biggest lie the ego tells us and it has very real physical consequences. To forgive does not mean we condone the act that hurt us because we can only forgive someone that has hurt us or has wronged us so forgiveness contradicts that belief.  Through forgiveness, the wrong is released from its emotional stranglehold on us so that we can learn from it. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself it has nothing to do with the person that has wronged you. It is a gift that you give to yourself and one that can alleviate a lot of physical pain.

“I can forgive, but I cannot forget, is only another way of saying, I will not forgive. Forgiveness ought to be like a cancelled note–torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one.”

~ Henry Ward Beecher

“I can forgive but I can never forget!” I hear this one all the time and it makes no sense to me. It is like saying you are going to go take a shower without getting wet. You will know that  you have truly forgiven when you recall those who hurt you and feel you  can wish them well. It is a process but well worth the time and effort because the emotional and physical health benefits in itself are worth the precious gift of forgiveness that you give to yourself. Being angry and resentful about something or someone is an emotionally exhausting task that requires a lot of energy. Energy you can be using for other things that will bring you joy.  Anger and resentment robs you of the positive things and good things in life that you deserve and robs you of the joy you deserve. You can not move forward in the past. As Alexandra Asseily  quoted ”Forgiveness allows us to let go of the pain in the memory and if we let go of the pain in the memory we can have the memory but it does not control us. When memory controls us we are then the puppets of the past.”

I am going to leave you with a post that one of my amazing Facebook friends posted last night. It shows the true power of forgiveness. When you forgive you start to see those that wronged you with a new perspective and it opens your heart fully to those that deserve your love and compassion. Emotional pain, anger, and resentment does not just take away from you, it effects everyone around you as well. You can not fully give love and compassion to others when you are holding onto someone that has hurt you. Forgiveness is not just a benefit to you, but also to those that you love. Please enjoy this powerful post my Facebook friend Jen Wrote! It shows the true power of forgiveness!

Choosing to revisit and experience my past and the present moment through new eyes, deeply enhanced the quality of everything that my thoughts and ultimately ALL of life delivered to me. I gazed upon the fragility and vulnerability that existed in what were once viewed as the monsters in my life – and suddenly, I saw with clarity and felt empathetic. Rather than perpetuate the illusions that accompanied holding others responsible for the various facets of lack that I believed existed in my life, I allowed myself to change my perspective. By identifying and healing all that limited me from valuing and respecting myself and others or remaining fully present….without feelings of self victimization, hostility or judgment – I felt the wheels of change within – gain momentum. 

Lovingly and compassionately healing the source of my pain required the rewiring of my thoughts as well as consciously and lovingly building a new foundation for my belief system that reflected authenticity, and most importantly – honoring my interconnectedness with ALL. When thoughts and situations obstructed my flow, I identified them as such, thanked them for helping me to develop awareness, then let them go. 

Exercising my power of choice by consciously identifying and releasing that which no longer served me, showed me that although everything felt so very real when I maintained a belief system that supported lower vibrational frequencies such as guilt, shame, blame or lack, my determination to bring closure to what once was – created a beautiful shift that supported actualizing all that I desired to experience in the present moment. Changing the way I viewed my inner and outer worlds helped me to recognize that while my perspective tainted many of my experiences throughout my life, self limitation was nothing more than an illusion.

In love and heartfelt gratitude, Jen Wichard

owner and founder of www.zententions.com

]]> http://fibrotv.com/2012/04/when-emotional-pain-turns-into-physical-pain/feed/ 0 http://fibrotv.com/2012/04/all-the-fibrotv-podcast-together-for-those-of-you-that-are-new-to-the-site/ http://fibrotv.com/2012/04/all-the-fibrotv-podcast-together-for-those-of-you-that-are-new-to-the-site/#comments Thu, 12 Apr 2012 03:24:24 +0000 Jen Reynolds http://fibrotv.com/?p=1004

In this Episode of FibroTV we talk about the toll Chronic illness takes on all our relationships and how to better manage our relationships with friends, family and spouses. Also we have a new segment that features independent artist and my friend Jason Gibson on Facebook shows of his talent! Also we talk about a special guest we will be having next week! Enjoy the podcast (and share please!)

Chase down your passion like it’s the last bus of the night. 

~Terri Guillemets

When first diagnosed with any physically limiting illness the last thing on your mind is your life goals, passions, and dreams. Just functioning can be so exhausting that you have nothing left at the end of the day.  Once symptom management begins you can start to focus on your dreams and passions once again.  If your dream is to run a marathon and you are diagnosed with CFIDS obviously you are going to have to adapt and modify your dream. You may no longer be a marathon runner but you can organize runs for charity events or even coach. Although it is not the same as running a marathon you are still involved in what you are passionate about. There is a reason why you are passionate about what you are passionate about and even though you might not fulfill your passion they way you imagined, you might be surprised how fulfilling it is for you to still follow that passion in a different way.

“If you will call your troubles experiences, and remember that every experience develops some latent force within you, you will grow vigorous and happy, however adverse your circumstances may seem to be.”

~John R. Miller

It may take you longer to reach your dreams because of having to adapt that specific dream to your new circumstances but the fulfillment will be even greater! Chronic illness teaches you to appreciate things that healthy people take for granted. Every little step you take towards your goal will be so rewarding for you! Also when you are focused on the things you love like your passions you won’t have as much time to think about your pain or not feeling well. It will distract you from that which is another benefit!

What are your passions and dreams? Did you give them up after you became ill? Have you followed your passions and dreams after becoming ill? What advise would you give to someone that is just starting their journey? Please leave your comments bellow!

Follow your dream…
Take one step at a time and don’t settle for less.
Just continue to climb.
Follow your dream…

If you stumble, don’t stop and lose sight of your goal.
Press to the top.
For only on top can we see the whole view
Can we see what we’ve done and what we can do
Can we then have the vision to seek something new
Press on.
Follow your dream.

~Unknown

If everyone is thinking alike, then somebody isn’t thinking

— George S. Patton

Thinking outside the box will never make you popular in fact it can make you very unpopular and the target of some pretty nasty comments. It is helpful to find support groups with like minded people instead of seeking support where people can not relate to what you are going through. Each support group has their feeling or vibe. Finding the groups where you feel comfortable can be a challenge but it is well worth it to get the right type of support and feel free to express your ideas without being trampled on. For more information on how to find the right support group for you please listen to:

Fibrotv Podcast Episode 4 Social Networking For Support

It is more important to be kind then it is to be right

As someone that thinks outside of the box it is important to remember to be kind to others and not be to “preachy” about what you are doing to feel better. Sometimes the excitement of finding something that manages your symptoms can make you want everyone to try it!  That can rub off the wrong way and actually do the exact opposite. It can turn people away from something that could potentially help them if and when they are ready. Remember that everyone goes through different stages when they become chronically ill and you have no idea what or how they are feeling. When someone can barely walk to the bathroom the last thing they want to hear about is how exercise will help them. I have learn the best approach is to lead by example. When you make a healthy meal post a picture of it on your personal page and offer to send recipes to those that would like them. If you exercise talk about when you reach your goals on your personal profile. There are ways to get people excited about what you are doing without pushing it on them.

You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist
~Friedrich Nietzsche

Tolerance and the understanding that your way is not the only way will get you a long way. As someone that thinks outside of the box it is not your job to save every single person out there that is sick. Your job is to take care of you! Putting to much energy into trying to convince others that what you are doing is the only way to go is counterproductive and energy you can be using to continue your journey towards wellness.

When we think of prescription medication we generally think they are safe and have gone through rigorous testing in order to be approved for human consumption and put on the market. We trust that the medications are safe and trust every pill we swallow will help us and not harm us.

Every year several medications are recalled or taken off the market because of serious and sometimes deadly side effects. Some after being on the market for years or even decades. So who approves these medications? How do drug trials work? What is the FDA’s role in protecting you as a patient. You might be surprised when you find out the truth. Or should I say THE LIES!

Below is s series of videos from a Dateline NBC investigation and I think ANYONE who takes any prescription drugs should watch this. I was shocked to find out how drug trials are performed and how fraudulent the system can be sometimes. Please also share this with family and friends. Remember power is knowledge. What you don’t know can hurt you!

PART ONE

PART TWO

PART THREE

PART FOUR

PART FIVE

PART SIX

Lily is a Great Dane that has been blind since a bizarre medical condition required that she have both eyes removed. For the last 5 years, Maddison, another Great Dane, has been her sight. The two are, of course, inseparable.

Always seek out the seed of triumph in every adversity.
~Og Mandino

All photo’s by Johnathan Pow/rossparry.co.uk

I’ll lean on you and you lean on me and we’ll be okay.

~Dave Matthews

“True Friends love you for who you are and not what they want you to be.”

~Unknown

“Joy lies in the fight, in the attempt, in the suffering involved, not in the victory itself”

~Mahatma Gandhi

We sometimes hear of a person worrying so much about something that they become obsessed with fear. We talk about someone being “worried sick.” A state of worry and fear  causes chemical changes in the brain, pituitary gland, and adrenal glands. These changes ultimately have the effect of weakening our immune system that protects us from disease.

It is almost the new year which means new beginnings! Resolutions will be made and broken. Personally I do not like New Years Resolutions because people tend to make goals that are over exaggerated and blown out of proportion. Then when they do not accomplish the goal they feel guilty or a sense of failure. The one good thing is that if you failed it means you tried! No one is a failure if you don’t give up and keep trying

So I came up with this idea “Wellness Challenge 2012.” Instead of making a big New Years Resolution I was thinking as a group we can make little ones that are good for our health throughout the year. So lets say your goal is to eat less processed food. That is huge thing to do all at once. Maybe at first you can integrate more fresh veggies in your diet and by doing that you have reached a “Wellness Challenge 2012.”  goal. Maybe you want to start exercising. With Chronic illness you can not just jump up and start running you have to start off slow. So you get up and start out with stretching. That is a “Wellness Challenge 2012″ goal! The point of this is that every small step you take towards wellness is amazing and you should be commended for it and you will have the support of others with chronic illnesses that will be encouraging you to keep taking small steps towards better health. To someone that is well you doing stretches might seem “nonproductive” or “not a big deal.” It is a HUGE deal that you put forth that effort and those that understand will encourage you as well as you encouraging them!  That is why I want to do this! I want everyone to be proud of themselves for taking these small steps!

Starting January 1,2012.  I am going to put up a post daily on FibroTV’s facebook page  with the logo bellow and I would like all of you to share what you did for that day to encourage your body towards wellness. You can post about something you did physically, mentally/emotionally, or spiritually. This post will be used to track your goals and accomplishments no matter how big or small and to to encourage others on their journey towards wellness! There will be no judgement only encouragement in this posts. Everyone has a different path they take and not one path is wrong or right. Anyone is welcome to participate! I am hoping to get more groups involved. They can even do their own version of it on their group or page! So what do you all think? You think you are up for the challenge?

Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.

~Henry Ford